When I started thinking about this article, my first thought was “I don’t think I have bad days anymore”, but that’s impossible. Everyone has bad days. I think it’s just my mindset around them that’s different. I don’t remember bad days because I don’t give them importance or attention. I know they just happen and are a natural part of life. So, how do I deal with them? I don’t. I just accept them. I let them happen and take them for what they are: one day. I know as soon as I wake up the next morning, it’s over and I can start anew. If anything, I’ll just take it easy for the evening and go to bed extra early as a way to move on faster.
But what if I wake up the next day and it’s not over? And the next day after that, and the next, until a bad day turns into a bad week turns into a bad month turns into a seriously rough patch? Usually, it only takes a month for me to realize that something’s wrong, get tired of feeling unhappy and decide to just do something about it. I can’t stand feeling poorly and doing nothing about it, because in a way, I’m my own best friend. I’m my biggest ally. And you don’t just see friends struggling and let them struggle on their own. So, I help myself. I have a checklist of sort, the Emilie Guide to Getting Out of a Funk. It basically goes like this:
- Define the problem
- Identify what might be causing the problem.
- Make a plan to remove the cause of the problem.
- Apply the changes and see if it fixes the problem.
- Maintain or adjust the solution.
Perhaps a little scientific looking, but hey, it works for me. It can take a week or it can take a month, but this method has never failed me. So, there you have it, my bad day advice. Either do nothing or do something, just don’t sit unhappy in the middle talking about change yet never changing.